DPMO!

As in Don't Piss Me Off!

Let me just clarify this title is a tad misleading *lol*. Be rest assured that the rest of this post will not take this attitude.

It is likely my mother would say I'm one that is quick to anger, taking after my fahja however, I think those in my proximal vicinity would describe me differently: a laidback, chilled-out person. However, I do notice that there are very few character traits/ behaviours in people that ocassionally make my nostrils flare. 1. Inconsistency 2. Unreliability 3.Bull [I don't know how else to put it].

But, I have also come to notice that someone you percieve to have any such negative characteristic will have little room to venture out of your perceptions. By this, I mean you are likely to have a much lower tolerance for their behaviour, no matter what they do. Its like you set a poor standard for a person, and in some sick way [not all the time though,]want them to live up to it. Just how the apple of a mother's eye could do no wrong. I think we do this to pardon our unforgiving judgement, 'look, see how shes like'. But it isn't right. It's not fair either.

Imagine how life would be if God held all our previous misgrievances against us- you know, forgiving sureeee but NOT forgetting. What would we ever recieve if God called us out on what we did last time?  'Nah, I won't give you that new job. Remember how slack you were, falsly declaring them sicks days?' I can remember that as early primary school-*St. Charles primary BRAP BRAP!!* -I lived by such principle. And by societies standards, it wasn't a bad principle at all. But I've learnt that forgiving involves forgetting. A new slate.Yes, as much as I hate it, this could mean allowing yourselves to get hurt by people. Truth is, God is not going to let us live a life without heartbreak. Without that pain, we'd all probably put our trust in man- and for many of ladies out there, a MAN,: (a topic that needs a whole another blog on its own!)- [more than we do currently] and our God is a jealous God.

I started this post in quite a fluster, but now the point im trying to make.. it's the words stuck in my head from this song, 

                                                                   LOVELOVELOVE!

I don't care whether your Christian or not, we should all see it as a debt to love those around us. Why- because God loves us CONTINUALLY. And if you wanna feel tha lurve, you gotta dish it out booboo.

Let no debt remain outstanding, except the continuing debt to love one another, for he who loves his fellowman has fulfilled the law. Romans 13:8

 Look inwardly and think of those traits: you're insecurity, bitterness, your anger. God hates these things but still loves you. Now, would man, if he could see it? and see it all? Jerome might just decide that your a longting. James might have to give the you and him situation a rethink. And when Temi tells her tightest girlfriend all about your antics, she might just advise her to gerrout! and run for cover.

'Okay that's nice, but I'm not even Christian, don't even know if there is a God anyway' I hear you say.  Okay. Here's some reasons why you're better off not holding things against people:

1. It's self consuming and tiring! Ugh. Do you know how much energy hating on someone and being annoyed by them consumes? Would not forgiveness take the load off? The funniest thing is, they might not even know they make you feel that way. LOL! Imagine. You're going around with that little vein line on your head, over-thinking and whatnot but they're as bright as day. As me mam' would say: "You're only killing yourself!"

There's so many more reasons but I really, really have to get back to my revision. I know that there exist things much more difficult for us humans to forgive e.g. murder of a loved one, rape :/  but I have been blessed with the lack of experience in that arena so I can't offer mm guidance? However, the same principle must apply. It will be much more difficult to act against your instincts. I am in NO way codemning anyone for unforgiveness and in NO WAY undermining horrendus acts like sexual abuse. But I am yet to hear from any victim, of anything, that has benefited from habouring hatred. From comparisibly small hurts, I've found unforgiveness just allows me to replay the situation again again again in my head, hurting me :/ Some acts are so beyond our understanding, that we cannot see past our hurt, emotions- like you close your eyes and see red. Open them and see nothing good. In that case, it will be a process. Step 1. Want to be forgiving. If for no other reason, do it for your peace of mind. Yes, express it any way you see fit- shout, rant.. blogpost. But when thats all said and done, refer to step 1.
 

I'll admit I was intially angry but even reading my previous post humbled me. We all do wrong. Some people will find us annoying. Some people will have us screaming in our head's "don't piss me off!". But we need to get over it because we do far worse to God on a daily basis. And He doesn't gives us half as much whiplash than we do people. I just pray that I'm actually able to live out this in my daily life cos' boy, some people don't half piss me off. *Deep breath in*...Perhaps instead of trying to change people, it is we [especially me] who need to change. Increase your tolerance level. Be slow to anger. Change that attitude. Be patient! sh-et man. If your love for God doesn't sway you, look at some of the illnesses associated with stress, primarily caused by anger.

Oh yeah and premature age lines from frowning, *shudders*

^ not my portion mate.

Note on any behaviours contrary to good Christian I may display: Feel free to point them out. I'm writing this blog as I am. No fakery, no ommision. Just how I am and how think <3

xoxo